Of course, I have to be very careful that I am up to whatever play is going to be done, and that the child has a real interest in it. My oldest and I play computer games. We have no video game systems, and she can only play computer games that Mom and Dad have approved. She does not have anything electronics in her room beyand radios and CD players. Spending a good part of her computer time playing games with her not only assures me that I know what she is on and what she is doing when on the computer, but is great fun for her and a great bonding experience. I know that this will not work for everyone, and it probably will not work for her forever, but it is working right now. That is the point. Each of these strategies has to be adjusted for the individual. The other thing she likes to do with me is read to me from the books that she really likes. This is another opportunity for me to go into her world. I used to only want her to read me books that we could both agree on. I think this is a mistake though. I need her to read to me whatever she wants to it will give me a better look into her life. I made a mistake when I considered it mere entertainment for both of us when in reality it was so much more than that.
My youngest is still a toddler and loves to be tossed around so I oblige her on a regular basis. My son likes me to read stories to him and wrestle a bit. No matter what it is, playing builds trust and helps the relationship. I have noticed if I play with my kids they are more likely to do what I request.